How did you come out to your parents?
I didn't came out to my parents...
Someone did for me. No need to say I was very upset at this person cause I was waiting for the right moment to do it by MYSELF.
Anyway, here is the story:
I went into New York to spend some days there at a friend of my father's apartment.
We did talk a lot. I really liked her at first sight. And she was very nice to me.
I didn't say anything to her at this moment cause I didn't trust her enough.
And then she came at our place few months ago and I decided to tell her because I wanted her to meet my girlfriend...
What did you say?
First I met her alone and tell her about this. She said that she knew it because she felt it...
She promised me she wouldn't tell to my parents. Because I told her I was not ready but that I will do it for sure one day.
Some days later, we had to meet after my work with my mother. Before the appointment she called me on my cell and told me that she did tell to my mother. I felt really betrayed...
And that was it, my parents knew about everything.
I don't like when people force me to do things when I'm not ready for it.
After this I had to talk with my parents. My mother said she knew about this but that she thought it was just a kind of period that it will go away as it came. So I explained to her I was like this and that it will never change.
For my father it was much more complicated we only talked about this story once the only thing he said was that I talked too much, and my mother agreed with him.
I was really sad, and then day by day they accepted it better they both met my girlfriend and it was ok. I'm not saying that tomorrow my girlfriend will come with us at a family party but they know her and it was a way for them to put a face on the Homosexuality word. And they saw that it was not this frightening.
Today I talk about my girlfriend sometimes and they do not have any problem about this.
I think it is still a problem for them and that they both hope that I will turn to men one day. But now they know.
After this I made one observation: I think I could have lived without telling them.
I mean, parents love you for who you are not for who you sleep with...
Advice
- My advice? Well say it to people you really trust in
- Then i would say that you have to leave some time to your parents and mostly be careful not to focus about this if they don't talk about it anymore.
- I do talk to them about my girlfriend without needing to say all the time intimate things.
- Do not forget that your parents brought you to this world so that you have to be respectful but you do not owe them anything.
- Do not blame yourself if they over react, it's not your fault.
- Be who you are you are not different than the person you used to be you just sleep with girls...
