Where I met my partner?
It is a "Friendship turned Life Partnership" story. Pretty long one. We were childhood friends. No first time meeting, no dating was required. We went to the same school, same college. Our parents were close friends. My dad and her dad worked together in the Indian Railways. We lived in the same street, just a couple of houses away from each other in suburban Chennai (Madras). There was no necessity to be out to our parents as they were no more when we actually fell in love.
How we fell in love
Both of us were hit by tragedies concurrently one after another. Also there were happy occasions. When I was orphaned with my father's death, it was my girlfriend's mother who gave me refuge and helped me take possession of the properties left behind by my parents. I had to fight a hard legal battle against my uncles. I would not have won this without the strong support of my girlfriend's mother. She stood behind and supported me like a pillar, besides helping me to complete my studies along with her daughter. After we landed in our respective jobs, her mother also died of cancer.
Left alone in life, each of us had our own bitter experiences with boy friends & broken relationships. One fine day when I met a group of my collegemates, closest of them indicated that Sandra, yes, that's the name of my "wife", has a crush on me. It was long after I discovered my orientation through another girl when she kissed me while watching a movie. It was amazing to know that my childhood friend is secretly in love with me. Never in the past either I imagined or entertained any such thought in myself about her. She was nervous and afraid of loosing the longest of her friendship. In fact, we were meeting a couple of times during week day evenings and she never gave me the slightest indication that she is in love with me.
It was after I sent a positive signal through our common friend, she made the first move and came knocking my door. On a Saturday morning she took me by surprise ringing my doorbell. She came out to me and we talked many things, discussed many things. Then on, we met everyday evening and eventually decided to live together & to protect each other from the predators. She suggested that she rent out her house to somebody and move into my house. I renovated my house & made some alterations and on an auspicious day we celebrated the housewarming ceremony. The same evening, within the privacy of four walls of my house we married in the presence of closest of friends. Our relationship is growing from strength to strength. It is quite amusing when I think of our petty quarrels during our school days. The hands that fought with me hugs me today. The mouth that scolded me then, kisses me now. It is thrilling to know, a couple of months from now, we will be celebrating our fourth anniversary.
Advice
- *Love her who loves you, for what you are. Love her for what she is.
