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I Never Thought I'd Fall in Love with a Woman

Share Your Story: How did you meet your partner?

By Shoogar

Where I met my partner?

We weren’t set up or anything like that. She worked with my best friend at a local fast food restaurant. I was 100% totally straight at the time. She, on the other hand was gay and proud.

How we fell in love

When we first started hanging out, I was a recent divorcee. I was married to a man for 5yrs, and never once did it cross my mind that I would someday fall head over heels for a woman. She started hanging out with my friend and I and at first I thought to myself. Wow this girl is pretty weird. She’s so outspoken and kind of out there. Nonetheless I found myself intrigued by her. We started spending more and more time together, just the two of us. After awhile I started to have weird feelings for her, feelings that I didn’t understand. It scared me. So I would pick fights with her. Spread rumors. I would tell lies close friends so that maybe I could get this girl out of my life. However, it never happened. I would go looking for her or she would come looking for me again. For the sole purpose of saving our friendship because neither of us wanted to lose such a great friend. Then one day after 2yrs of friendship with no advances or even subtle hits of attraction for one another. I found out my ex husband was having a baby. I was completely devastated. Only because that’s the life I had once planned for myself. I went to my friend and told her how depressed I was and how lonely I felt. I told her how I was so lonely and I had no one to turn to for comfort. And she said, "Do you ever think of me?" I was taken aback. Millions of thoughts swam thru my mind. After a moment, which seemed like an eternity to both of us, I said "yes." That was the first day of the rest of my life. In the beginning I was scared out of my mind. I loved a girl? How could that be possible? But I soon embraced it and took a chance on love. Our relationship has benefited in so many ways from the fact that we were, and still are, such close friends. She is my soul mate. And I love her more than I’ve ever loved anyone or anything. And she in return loves me with all her heart and soul and I can feel it all around me. Now I am happier than I’ve ever been in my life and I owe it all to my beautiful girlfriend. She has helped me feel safe and confident with whom I am and I am proud. My soul mate was standing in front of me wearing ridiculous purple shoe and if I hadn’t taken a chance I might have missed out on my happiness, on my great love. <3 ILMS

Advice

  • Don't be scared.
  • Take a chance on love.
  • When you stop looking for love, you will find it.
  • If youre gay. Youre gay. And its easier to embrace it, than fight it. And much much happier.

Kathy Belge, About.com Lesbian Life, says:

Glad you didn't let your first impressions be the last ones.
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