Where I met my partner?
We met online. One day I received an adorable message. She was coming off a very abusive relationship with a man and was exploring her desires to be with a woman. She had only been with two women in the past. I saw immediately how sweet my lady can be. We lived 120 miles apart and had trouble getting together. We emailed for 3-4 days and then moved to phone calls. We talked for hours. It took 3 weeks for us to finally meet in person on Memorial Day weekend 2009. I couldn't wait for her to knock on my door. We spent two days together just getting to know one another. We both cried when she left that Sunday night.
How we fell in love
That first weekend was amazing. I went to her house the next weekend. We alternated going to each others' homes for the next 2 months. During that time I finally came out with my family. That went ok. To be honest they weren't that surprised but it has taken time anyway. They did agree to meet her and saw her charm just as I did. I had been looking to move to a larger city. Plus I wanted to finish getting a degree. When I told her I was moving closer to her, she immediately asked me to move in with her. However she was still hiding her new life from her family. She did come out though. That did not go well at all but it's improving. We took a little weekend trip to do some shopping and sight-seeing. That was another amazing weekend in our whirlwind romance. We have been together ever since.
Moving away from my family has been difficult. I do see them about once a month now. We also met another lesbian couple who are now our very dearest friends. They have been together 7 years and were married 11 months ago. My birthday is in January. The weather had been so bad and I was pretty depressed anyway. My sweetie and our two friends planned a surprise party for me. Most of my family and a friend from childhood came on Saturday morning while I was in class. Even her parents came to the party. They spent that morning cooking a big dinner. I was never so surprised in my life when I saw 19 people sitting in out little house. My sister, childhood friend and our other two friends spent the night at our house. Yes we drank too much wine but it was a fantastic night. It was just like an old slumber party. My lady and sister are very close. Sometimes my sister talks to her more than me. lol
Also my parents met her parents and have become friends. They have started going to PFLAG meetings. Her parents do like me but I know they wish I were a nice guy instead. Our friends have been great too. They are wonderful ladies who have shown our families that there is nothing to be ashamed of in our love for one another. For her birthday the four of us went out to dinner, then a stage production of Chicago and she loved it.
Now we are talking marriage. It's not official yet but it will happen within the next few months. We are going to New England this fall. I'm hoping that will be a honeymoon to remember forever.
My future wife has an account here so I know she will be reading this. My darling I love you with all my heart! Thank you for pulling our families together.
Advice
- Keep working on your relationship with your family. Many will be upset with you but stick to your guns. Show them your love for one another cannot be broken.
- PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) has been tremendous for us. Hopefully you have something similar in your area. Share your new life with your love ones to show them how happy you are now.
- Invite your love ones to create a new family day like my birthday party. You are not going away but have simply made a different decision.
