Where I met my partner?
I had always known of her because she lived in the same neighborhood (right across the road) from my grandparents, where I stayed the majority of my childhood. I always used to watch her and her brothers play outside and always wanted to go play with them but was too shy to go introduce myself. We rode the same bus at times, went to the same school (I moved alot), but never ever recall talking to each other. She was quiet and a little shy too. We were in some of the same classes, shared a couple of friends but somehow never became friends. Years rushed by, I moved back and forth, and finally....
How we fell in love
I came back late in the last 2 months of 10th grade. I noticed that little girl across the road had grown tall, beautiful, and was the most popular girl in school! I only got to see her passing the halls and she was always laughing, talking and surrounded by groups of people every time. I was no longer in a relationship but NEVER ever thought I could possibly have her so I rarely even thought about it. It seemed so ridiculous and irrational. She was too good, too popular. I was an outcast, shy and quiet with only a couple friends. Never got a chance to talk to her until the beginning of the next school year. 11th grade. We had 3 classes together....she was sitting close by and listened to me and another girl talking about past loves. She knew then I was gay. But she had never been in a real relationship, just puppy love as a child, also a virgin :) We all talked in the group of people that sat close. Everytime we talked then, she would be goofy, playful, and make me laugh everytime. She was flirty and came off as I'm-just-way-too-hard-to-get. The 3rd night she got my number from a friend and texted me saying "Guess who" giving me hints and being playful. From then on it was every night phone calls for hours upon hours at a time. I was madly in love, shared with people about my crush and they all told me it would never ever happen. I decided to let her know with several pages of a letter I wrote very carefully. And she wrote back that she felt the same, but could ever let friends and family know. She was scared, confused, and worried about the thoughts of others. She was born into a wealthy christian family and that was NEVER accepted. She kissed me for the first time Halloween night at our school playground. I almost had a heart attack!!!! I lost my breath completly. I would shake everytime she got close to me, studder tryig to talk to her, choke from just saying her name, and smiling like crazy hearing her name. I was head over heels....and finally got a kiss. :) It was perfect, the greatest most exciting night of my life. Lots of drama from friends and family followed shortly after. Her mom finding my letters, her sneaking around to be with me, and trying to gain confidence and acceptance from our relationship. It's been a little bumpy, but we have come a long, long way. Her family accepts me now, but not the "us" part. It's ignored but I'm included in family events :) We have a beautiful little boy and been together for 4 and a half years now.
Advice
- Take it SLOW!! Whatever you do,,,never ever go too fast. Be honest and COMMUNICATE. Trust is key.
