Where I met my partner?
We met working for the same company. She was out, I was an oblivious 19 year-old who considered herself asexual. I really didn't have any interest in females or males, although I would usually find myself infatuated with some female character or other on a TV show I watched (that probably should've been a clue for me but... the mind sees what it sees in its own time). The best way I can think to describe it is that I was a late bloomer.
How we fell in love
We quickly became friends... she's one of those people you can't help but like right away. Smart, funny, doesn't take herself too seriously. We were good friends for 8 years. Then reality smacked me in the face, and I couldn't ignore all these feelings that had been stirring in my subconscious for the last couple of years or so. This didn't happen because of her, though. She was the one person I really felt I could turn to when, at 27, I found myself attracted to a woman (a real one, that I could actually talk to, in the real world). Mind you, this was the first time I had been attracted to anyone. It didn't work out, and I was devastated. She was so supportive, and her own coming out was very similar to mine (she came out at 25). We starting spending more time together, and I began to realize how important she had become to me. It was then I realized I couldn't imagine not having her in my life, and that I had fallen in love her. Luckily for me, she felt the same way. I'm happy, and fortunate enough, to say that we've been a couple for 2 years now. She's an incredible person, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
Advice
- It's hard for me to really give advice on this one, as I have very little experience with dating. I suppose the best advice I can give would be this: Don't rush yourself, things will happen in their own time.
- Don't limit yourself to what you believe is "your type". Often times, the one we're meant to be with is the last person we'd expect. I know this sounds cliche, but it's true.
- Look for someone you can be friends with, as well as a lover. I believe this to be very important. You'll have a stronger relationship because of it. My girlfriend is also my best friend, for which I will always be grateful.
