Where I met my partner?
We were a bit of a bad lesbian cliché. My partner and I met in a lesbian bar tucked away in the West Village in NYC not long after I had moved to the City. On the night we met, neither of us had actually wanted to go out; we were dragged out by friends. Our friends actually met first, and then while they were being loud and crazy in the bar, we tucked ourselves away in a corner and talked all night; flirting and lightly touching all the while. We became completely oblivious to the fact that we were still in a bar (despite yelling over loud music the entire time).
How we fell in love
I think we had an inkling right away. At the end of that first night in the bar, she asked me to go home with her – not for sex, but just to sleep together – and I went. We did exactly what was promised – sleep and snuggle. When I was leaving her apartment the next day and she kissed me, it took my breath away and I never wanted it to end. We exchanged numbers and she called me two days later, beating me to the punch as I had planned to call her the same day.
We became really good friends relatively quickly; and started dating not long after we met. We took it slow - we went on dates and held hands; we did romantic things like strolling through the streets of NYC at Christmastime, drinking hot chocolate and watching the Macy's light show; we didn't sleep together for the first few months we were together because we wanted our relationship to be about more than a physical attraction.
We discovered we had the same sense of humor can laugh about anything and everything together. We talk openly and freely about everything, even when we have a disagreement - it has made our relationship stronger and deeper. Every day when I wake up and find her next to me, it’s the most amazing feeling in the world. More than two years later and she still takes my breath away.
Advice
- *Don’t rush into something. It took my partner and I two years to finally live together; but that gave us time to truly learn about each other and develop a solid relationship before making the decision it was the right move for both of us.
- *Don’t be self-conscious. We have the rare privilege of not being bound by society’s rules for conventional relationships. The thing that makes us different and "unconventional" makes us beautiful and unique. There's someone out there that will love you and all your quirks
- Take the risk and don't dwell on "what ifs" - you might miss out on getting to know someone amazing.
