From the article: Why Is There Biphobia in the Lesbian Community?
Have you experienced bi-phobia, prejudice against bisexuals? Especially from within the LGBT community? Share your story and how it made you feel. Share Bi-phobia stories
Not Queer Enough
- a few times, i've heard my gay male friends say biphobic comments that make me feel not queer enough because I defy the stereotypes of a non-monosexual whose in a monogamous long term relationship with a straight man. I feel im not validated.
- —greetreepeace
Well...
- Dear friends, I have a serious problem with my relationship: I am lesbian and underage, my girlfriend is bi-sexual, adult and with boyfriend. I really love her and I know that she loves me but I don’t want to share her with anybody. I tried a few times to explain to her that she is going to have to choose between me and him but she insists so much and tells me all the time that she has got the same feelings for both of us and that she wants to keep us both. It’s so strange to me that he doesn’t have any problem about this and the only one around here who doesn’t like the situation is me. I am in real trouble this time and I am so young..I have never dealt with such situation in the past. The thing is that I don’t want to lose her and I would do anything for it, but I don’t know if I will ever be ok with the fact that she has a boyfriend. It feels like she is cheating on me and that someday she will say goodbye to me because she only wants to be with him. I am sooo confused… Please hel
- —swinia
well...
- When I was with my boyfriend he was always asking bout girls I like. And asking if I will tell him bout sex between us. I found this hurtful and like I could have no privacy. And when I say no he acts all defensive like I would cheat on him, because I've had a girlfriend in the past. Yes I'm bisexual, I'm comfortable with my sexuality and if people think bisexuals are any less faithful they can get their heads out their arse. I am now currently in love with a female and I will not cheat with a man on her!
- —Guest Me
bi-phobe
- Even though I have always been attracted to both men and women -- and have had relationships with both -- I find I am prejudice toward "bisexual" people! I imagine the worst stereotypes and myths associated with the term.... Mainly, that it means a woman is 'easy' and promiscuous. Obviously an internal fear of my own sexuality. And maybe also why I have such difficulty embracing my current re-surfacing feelings for women. I feel I ought to be 'one or the other'. But why? Sounds silly. And.. the idea of being with a man who's bisexual scares the hell out of me... I figure he's more likely to stray or 'need' that male contact -- much like I fear being with a bi woman. I actually thought I had "said Goodbye" to the lesbian (bi) part of my life several years ago when I began dating men again after living several years as a lesbian... Now I'm wanting to come to a place of acceptance that for me, attraction seems to be truly about the person and not the gender.
- —Guest rebecca
Bi-phobia from gays
- I have experienced a fair bit of bi-phobia, and mostly from the gay community. As a bi-sexual female, people often think I am lying about my sexuality because men think it's "hot". This is the most frustrating thing in the world and is really offensive and hurtful. I would think a gay person who had to deal with the struggles of coming out at one point in their life would not jump to such harsh judgements regarding another persons sexuality.
- —Guest Jane Doe
Well. . .
- My girlfriend is a lesbian while I'm bisexual, and she seems certain I'm going to cheat on her with a man. I wouldn't cheat period and don't know where she gets this from. Hearing "Well, I can't keep you from liking dick" doesn't exactly make me feel good. I'm with her for a reason--because I care about HER. I wish she would accept that.
- —Guest Hmm
Well. . .
- My girlfrield is a lesbian, while I'm bisexual, and she seems absolutely certain I'm going to cheat on her with a guy. I wouldn't cheat period, and don't know where she gets this idea. =/ Maybe this is a subtle form of biphobia? She doesn't seem worried I'll cheat on her with another woman. . .
- —Guest Hm
