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Readers Respond: Butches, Do You Like to be Touched Sexually?

Responses: 130


No vaginal insertion

My partner now is the first stud I have every been with. It was several months before we became intimate, but I was aware of the things she allowed to be done to her sexually. She will allow me too perform oral sex on her (my fav) but will NOT allow any type of vaginal penatration at all. This is not a problem for me. With studs I think since they are the ones in the manly role ( no offense) for them to be penatrated takes away from that role. But this is not a problem for me and it works for our communication. She keep the lines of communication open between you and your partner. You would be suprised of the many ways you can sexually satisfy each other.
—Guest Denise

its really difficult

i too am with a woman that refuses to let me be intimate with her and i just dont understand every other girl i have ever been with loves it but i cant seem to get her to open up to me. I try as hard as i can not to get frustrated well at least i try not to show it on my face but i do anyway and she is trying but she cant and i just dont know if i am just totally wrong for partially lingering towards other females .? because she isnt meeting all my desires...
—Guest Vonrenea

Frustrated Much

Well I've been with my girlfriend almost a year now and everything is great. She is my very first girlfrien, but when it comes to our sex life it's a little frustrating. She loves to pleasure me. I've bought toys to heat things u but sometimes I want to use toys on her instead of it always being me.I love her very much but I feel like it's unfair. A relationship should be equal and I don't feel like that. I really don't want this to effect our relationship.
—Guest SoInLove

not to speak for my butch but...

90per cent of the time, our love-making is no where near passive for either of us. It is more of a wild dance that moves across the room, spins us dizzy and sometimes winds us upside down! I can see that she is the 'top' in a sense, but I do not feel like a 'pillow princess'! Gasping, moaning, screaming if our surroundings permit, thrusting, grinding, licking, kissing, I am far from passive and she likes it that way. I love knowing that she is getting off on my (sometimes exagerated but never fake) responses to what she is doing to me. And then, if I'm lucky, she will guide my hand inside her and together we will ride her waves... in these times she need not feel vulnerable - she is a powerful queen. She could crush my bones within her if she wanted to! It is I who lay at her altar to sip at her overflow. It is I who falls asleep on 'top' (literally). And that other 10 per cent of the time, when it is quiet and one-sided, is what I call a wake-up call.... what a lovely way to wake up!
—Guest a busy femme

So sick of these selfish stud women

so sick of these women talking about they do not want to be touched. I am a lesbian femme and I have been out for about 20 years. These stud women out here always saying that they do not want to be touched or they do not want oral sex... it's crazy because I love women and I want to please, just as much as I want to be pleased. I think these women are selfish, and don't want to let someone else take control. I don't want to do anything crazy like penetrate her or anything like that but, I would like to smell her, taste her, touch her, I'm so sick of this, I'm really ready to start looking for femmes
—Guest guest ranebo4life


I love sexual stimulation from my woman I'll do any thing for her amazing cunnilings as nd hand jobs... I'm Butch sag my pants dreaded my hair tatted up have a slick deep voice and all but i love to be touched
—Guest studensky

a big yes

i have always been boyish - the way i think, act and the way i dress up. this is who i am. i always want to be with women, i enjoy flirting with them. i get crazy with their scent, with the way they dress up and with their attitude..i enjoy watching them do all their girly stuffs..ahh the little man inside me wants to get out and i can FEEL it. But its funny because I am a stone butch only with my one night affairs but with my partner, its a BIG YES! I want her to sexually touch me the way i like it, the way the little man in me wants it.

Cant touch this

Im quite butch, i prefer to give my partner pleasure than to recieve, i find that when im pleasing her im pleasing both of us :)
—Guest Poonani

moderate touching allowed......

I'm butch and i like to be touched but not too much. She can touch me sexually but not the way i touch her. There is a huge difference.
—Guest tj

My butch gf is a pillow princess

Yup. Ok let me clarify some.  She is very butch in appearance 90% of the time. I am more femme since I've been with her and she really likes me to wear dresses and makeup and heels.   The first few months it was all about tribadism with her top. Then she started asking me to top. Also at first she wouldn't allow any oral but after a couple months she let me do that & now she asks for that every time without fail. However she does not offer the same back & when she will occasionaly oblige me it's only for few seconds or a minute maximum. She loves having her whole body touched and rubbed, especially breasts. However she does not allow penetration (well only once). We don't use any toys which I'm okay with. I have to say I would like some oral every once in a while, and for more than just a few seconds! Oh yeah and the funny part? She totally loves bragging about how great she is in bed. Yup. Also interesting point: she keeps her pubic area trimmed but not shaved, however she insists tha
—Guest Butch Lover

Im a "Stone Butch"

But my femme is one who wants to give me pleasure also. But whenever she tries to, I just cant feel pleasure. When we rub against each other, however, I can reach climax. Im starting to upset my gf this way though. Because when I reach it I dont moan. Do I have to force myself to moan to please her?

I don't like being touch

I'm a butch and i'm not comfortable being touched. I just enjoy seing my partner happy everytime we have sex.sometimes we argued about my issue of not wanting to be touchEd but as time goes by she accepted it and i'm soo lucky having her unlike my past relationship.
—Guest No

Im very much a tomboy

I consider myself without a label.We are all people im a woman but i feel equal to my partner she is a tomboy also we both loved to be touched. I am more masculine most of the time she says im the time butch.I just laugh a label is a on a can. life is to short just laugh ride the rainbow and communicate with who you are with

dirty whore

I'v been a player ever since I 've been in the life, the reason I don't let women please me is the sense of me losing control. I don't like that so in order to remain invulnerable, I just tell them I don't like being pleased or I tell them I get off by just pleasing them, any butch that says that is full of bullcrap. The TRUTH is we don't want you FEMS having that much power over us. It's not right! Besides when you women have that much control over us, we're like your little lap dogs that you got all wrapped around your little finger. I've seen it played out too many times, and I refuse to be tamed!!! Why do you women feel the need to please us anyway? If you want something in your mouth sooo badly, do us a favor please....bite the pillow.
—Guest secretly....yes

Yeah I am pretty sure butches like it

Well I am a butch and well it was actually a bit akward at first when my gf touched me when being in bed but when she did she knew how to please me right, she knew how to touch she knows what I liked and how I liked it. It was he first having sex too and it was amazing and I liked to touch her as well.
—Guest Josey434

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