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Readers Respond: Butches, Do You Like to be Touched Sexually?

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I don't enjoy being touched sexually

I for one do not enjoy being touched sexually in my breasts or vagina. I have no pleasure from it. I have had women that have tried but I have to say honestly it causes discomfort for me in more ways than one. Partners I have had excepted this until lately. I have a woman that is a phsycologist and she insists on trying to change me. I can see this relationship heading for disaster. She compensates by saying she is trying to get to know me or that she is teasing. Not helpful. Please ladies if you meet someone like me, don't try and change us. Just leave!
—Guest ButchCassidy

soft butch

i am just me. i don't like stereotypes or labels but when i am intimate with a partner i love to be touched everywhere. if there is tension then the intimacy is ruined.
—Guest vinnigirl

Do Butch Lesbians Like to be Touched

I don't think its that Us, Butch Lesbians don't like to be touched.....I think we're more Paticular about who We allow to touch Us. Lol.....that's my truth!!
—Guest Tish Love

Butches should touch and Be touched. :)

I am a girl who loves other girls. I'm femme and my girlfriend is a soft butch. She's much experienced about sex and she's the one who actually made my fantasies materialized. However, I also longed to touch another girl. But I love receiving too. Our first few time together, she was the one touching me all over. She tells me to do stuff, and i follow her which gives us both pleasure. Lately, i've also wanted to touch and explore her body. Please her as she pleases me. However, she didn't liked that. But, when she realized I really wanted it, she allows me but makes it a little bit difficult for me. but still, i get to touch and lick her too. When I start to turn her on so much, she then grabs me and we do 69. Give and take would definitely be a great turn on for any lesbian partners.
—Guest guest chaps

butches like to be touched sexually

I'm a femme lesbian my gf is soft butch she is awesome she touches me in ways and makes me feel like no one has ever made me feel she is my first lesbian r/s She lets me touch her and enjoys it of course I'm still learning lol but she helps me she freaks out cuz I like penetration & thinks its cuz I miss bein with a man since I left a 15 yr marriage & a 8 yr r/s with a man for her I do have a hard time having orgasm always have never had one thru oral sex except with her so that tells u how amazing she is
—Guest femme

I luv making luv to my femme wife

I love it when she carreses my breasts, explores my body, and gives it to me hard. I love her freaking sexy, gorgeous body's touch.
—Guest Mook

My (kinda?) Butch Girl

My girlfriend and I have been together for quite a while and we are both very much in love. I'm obnoxiously femme. Heels, dresses, skirts, makeup, long hair, and the works. However, my girlfriend usually wears jeans and tshirts with a sweatshirt. No makeup, but she does have longish hair. It's a skater-boyish cut though. So I would consider her a soft butch. She considers herself the guy in our relationship. As far as sex goes, i'm usually agressive, but she loves it. Sometimes she has her moments too, and she will straddle me and tease me ect. At first, she had some reserves about me seeing her feminine parts, but like everyone here is saying, it takes alot of trust and honest for a relationship, and she everntually became very comfortable with me touching her in every way. What we have is amazing, and I think thgat most women enjoy being toughed, and if they say they don't, I think it is a personal issue. But be truthful and loving with your girl, and nothing will be better than that
—Guest Doll Face

I love to be touched by my gf

Oh yeah it makes me s o sexually attracted to my hot gf
—Guest Mock

I don't mind being touched

Well I would say that I am a soft stud. I definitely dress boyish and I enjoy femminine looking women. The woman that I am with now is absolutely gorgeous :). I would have to say that I definitely like being touched but it takes time for me to trust someone and allow them to do that to me. I know that I am attractive but I am self- concious about certain parts of my body. Fortunately for me my gf has no problem with my body and finds me attractive. I usually like to be a giver and it does turn me on but there is nothing like being touched by someone you care about deeply. So I definitely like to receive as much as I give. Plus I think its healthy for my relationship.

I'm hardcore butch and love it all

I'm extremely butch and love being touched in every way. I also love touching my gf (who is much more girlly) in every way. Pleasing her is so enjoyable emotionally and extremely hot and when she pleases me i go nuts. I can sometimes be uncomfortable with my body though and we simply resolve the issue i guess you might say by sorta role playing as if i was male. I'm not really into having my breasts touch and can feel very awkward with them most the time but love attention in the southern region lol...and thankfully she loves being touched everywhere lol.
—Guest RLS

i wanna know wht 2 do.

Ok so I like butch girls. They just make me all wet. I normally just fool with fem"s just because I dnt have 2 guess. But this 1 girl I really like and she wants me but I dnt wannna do the wrong thing when we have sex. Any ideas.
—Guest nu nu


I'm a femme and my partner isnt really a butch . Or she is just not girly and dresses boyish . She still has her soft side . But she thinks that she is the boy in our r/s . I've been with her for 6months ? I think that butches are still ok with touching about . But my girlf doesnt like it in public . During a camp at night , she turned me on and we had a great time touching each other . But she is rather sensitive when i touch her back .

I am a Butch/Lipstick Lesbian

I can only speak for myself, I don't like to be touched 'down there' because my mind tells me I am supposed to have male looking genitals and I don't, it would be like if an adult male had a car acctident and lost his penis and testicals, he wouldn't want anyone looking or touching him down there either. I can organism without being touched, her excitment does it. I do enjoy body contact, hair, breast, hands, and lips all over the rest of my body. I can tolerate being touched on my breast, but I get little from it. Touching or looking at my crotch kills my libido... I believe I could learn to enjoy being touched every where if I really felt loved and trusted the commitment of the woman I was with. I have enjoyed the quick glancing pass of a hand down there, over the spandex shorts I was wearing.. that was the limit. I prefer to leave a bra on also I have really long natural hair, it is a turn on to the females I have been with, but I only go without my short wig if they insist.
—Guest bbk

Depends on Personal Choice

I am a very gender-fluent and sexuality-fluent person (though heavily favouring females as romantic/sexual partners), however I would probably be most closely associated with being butch. I've mostly been with very feminine partners, but I would have no problem being with an all-out femme, other butch, or anyone in between. I love to be touched sexually, and personally don't understand the whole "top/bottom" thing. My relationships have been very mutual in all aspects, which is the way I like it. :) It all depends on who you are and what you like, though. I would suspect most butches do like to be touched sexually in some way, and that the "stone butches don't like to be touched sexually" is simply a very common stereotype. Hope that helps in some way.
—Guest Canada "Butch"

Yes Nd no

Me and my gf have been together for almost a year she is the only girl I have been with and she it whats considered a "stone butch" she doesn't like me to touch her below her waist. We kiss, we touch, we rub, get silly, make love, go rough different things, but she has no problem with me touching her breast just not below her waist. And she honestly does get complete pleasure From pleasing me. I didn't believe her when she said she was a clothes on giver but we were playing around after making love And I reached below her waist Nd she was just as satisfied as I was my Hand got jerked away pretty fast but I knew she was happy wit how she pleased me so I don't worry bout it anymore were completely open with each other about likes Nd dislikes it's just about communication Nd neither one of us use toys we've never had a need to were perfectly satisfied with ourselves Nd being together emotionally and as physically as allowed there's no complaints from either it just depends on the person Nd how open u r :
—Guest Heathersgirl

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