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Readers Respond: Is it Okay to Masturbate When in a Relationship?

Responses: 81

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yes of course

Self exploration enriches the sexual activity engaged in with one's partner.
—lorgnette

HELL YESSSSSS!

I LOVE TO PLAY WITH MYSELF IT TURNS ME ON MORE AND I LOVE IT WHEN SHE GET TURN ON AND TAKES CONTROL OF ME AND MY BODY. I'M ALWAYS READY TO EXPLODE AND MASTURBATION IS SOOOOOOOOO EROTIC IM VERY SEXUAL, AND I LOVE TO KNOW THAT MY BABY IS VERY MUCH ENJOYING WHILE IM DOING IT.
—Guest WETNJUICY

Course!

I really don't have a problem with it. It's incredibly hot to watch my woman please herself, and as we live an hour apart and can't see each other all the time, I'm more than happy for her to please herself (I'm even buying her a vibrator for valentines day :p). Even if we lived in the same house though, I'd understand that sometimes you just want to do it yourself. Whatever makes her happy! The only time I wouldn't be totally fine with it would be if it was replacing me :p
—Guest Jess

Yummy!

I love it when my girl masturbates in front of me, it's hot and makes me wild!
—Guest pink1975

Oh Come ON!

I think one needs to ask oneself a question in addition to the first one asked. When you are in a relationship does your girlfriend own your body and sexuality? Of course, it is my opinion that she doesn't and that you have had knowledge of your sexuality longer than she has so sometimes when you need that quick fix she may not be the one for the job. However, if your masturbating comes at a cost to the relationship ease up and let her take you instead or do it together. And as for fantasies come now thought crime is for futuristic dystopias not for loving relationships between equal partners.
—Guest Mika

of course its beautiful

We masturbate often in front of each other. Its very exciting.
—Guest wildrabbit

Yes, it's ok

I think it's ok. If someone's partner or girlfriends away on business or for some other reason. That person may be lonely and missing their significant other. Or it may be something they love to do. Just as long as their thinking about their significant other when they masturbate.
—surgicalgirl

yea

I would prefer if she was thinking of me when she does it... it should also be a mutual thing. My ex and I used to have phone sex... that was fun... I think its great exploring your sexuality individually then with your significant other.
—risa91

ok?

Of course! Orgasms are like food, drugs, exercise- all those things that the more you have of, the more you want. It's a compliment...
—Guest happy girl

Yes

I think it's ok, if you're thinking about your partner while doing it.
—surgicalgirl

Yes

To me it's a turn on and my girlfriend likes it as well
—pinkladykittycat

absolutley

My girlfriend loves to watch me masturbate with our dildo or vibrator. She loves it when she catches me in the act, it's a big turn on for her! If only she would play with herself for me I'd love to watch her (she's a little shy, I'm working on it).
—Guest dorianna

Yes!

I think that it's just the hottest! Mutual masturbation is wonderful. But I am totally open minded if she decides to masturbate by her lonesome. It's great for her to explore the body and come back with what she likes and gives me pointers. I do the same. :D
—Guest lesbiangurrl

masterbation

oh yeahhhhhhhhhh i think that it perfectly fine to masterbate and i love it when my girl does it infront of me. we both do it together. infact she doing it now to turn me on am getting wet and horny. am going for a play. oh yeahhhhhhhhhhh
—Guest horny

JUST LOVE ME

If the woman I love needs to be pleased I do it she really probably has no need to do it because I am here for her if she ever feels she needs attention, But when I'm not around I find it hot when she calls me up and tells me she wants me and only me and that she is thinking about me when she touches herself
—Guest Sugarlips91

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