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Readers Respond: Is it Okay to Masturbate When in a Relationship?
Responses: 25

By Kathy Belge, About.com

Do you think it's okay for someone to masturbate and/or fantasize about someone else when they are in a relationship? What is Your Opinion?

absolutley

My girlfriend loves to watch me masturbate with our dildo or vibrator. She loves it when she catches me in the act, it's a big turn on for her! If only she would play with herself for me I'd love to watch her (she's a little shy, I'm working on it).
—Guest dorianna

Yes!

I think that it's just the hottest! Mutual masturbation is wonderful. But I am totally open minded if she decides to masturbate by her lonesome. It's great for her to explore the body and come back with what she likes and gives me pointers. I do the same. :D
—Guest lesbiangurrl

masterbation

oh yeahhhhhhhhhh i think that it perfectly fine to masterbate and i love it when my girl does it infront of me. we both do it together. infact she doing it now to turn me on am getting wet and horny. am going for a play. oh yeahhhhhhhhhhh
—Guest horny

JUST LOVE ME

If the woman I love needs to be pleased I do it she really probably has no need to do it because I am here for her if she ever feels she needs attention, But when I'm not around I find it hot when she calls me up and tells me she wants me and only me and that she is thinking about me when she touches herself
—Guest Sugarlips91

Sure~

I really do love when she masturbates, and I strongly encourage it! It's always nice recieving a couple dirty texts or so~ We're both very supportive of each other masturbating, and really do love the idea of it. Mutual masturbation is a favorite of ours. ;D
—Guest I love her

Err...

Well, I'll agree about the inadequate thing. I guess I'd feel almost like what I do isnt enough? But whatev. I wouldnt try to stop her. At all. :)
—Guest Jacey

ABSOLUTELY

It would DEFINITELY turn me on. I believe that it shows to me that my partner is not frigid and is comfortable with their body. I ENCOURAGE it! BRING IT ON!!!
—vrywet

yeah!

I'm rather young so I don't know what its like to masturbate in front of your partner, but I'd be okay with it if she did. I'd like it!
—Guest star_girl101

Yes

It just gets you in the mood ! It's my body so my girlfriend doesn't mind . We someties do it together.we just lay on seperate beds masturbating in view of each other. It turns me on and we both have mind blowing orgasms..
—Guest Sweet pussy

yeah

it's fine. it gets them"in the mood..." and stuff.
—Guest kk

Yes Especially in front of your partner

Masturbation and Mutual Masturbation go hand in hand ... :-) Have Fun Enjoy Play Early and Often
—Guest LOLLIPOP-LESBIAN.COM

Yes No

I don't like it simply because it makes me feel inadequate. But I do it, so I can't tell her not to. I love doing it to her though, & vice versa !
—Guest LaLaLina

Yess, absolutely

I think it's sexy when my girlfriend masturbates. It's a huge turn on for me, and her. Masturbation is a part of life I guess you could say.. There is nothing wrong with doing, and there is nothing wrong with not doing it either. But as far as Im concerned.. It's amazing!!
—Guest lesbain_lover

hells Yes!

Such a Turn on! Everyone should practice touching themselves before their partners. What an experience to share. Especially when I'm busy strappin' up. What what!
—Guest likkleone

yes

I love when my girl masturbates. It doesnt bother me at all.
—Guest jo jo

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