If you didn't pay close attention, you might not have noticed that three states just legalized same-sex marriage. In the past 10 days, Rhode Island, Delaware and Minnesota have become 10th, 11th and 12th states in the US to legalize same-sex marriage. And although it's been reported on, gay marriage is no longer front page news it once was. What the heck is happening? Is the tide finally changing for good? Are we on our way to full marriage equality?

So much has changed in the ten years since I first started writing the Lesbian Life page on About.com in 2003. At that time, I didn't think marriage equality was even a remote possibility. I remember when the first couple was married in the US in San Francisco in 2004. I was so excited, I hopped a plane to San Francisco to be part of history.

I sat back this week and reflected on all the changes that I've witnessed since I started writing this blog. What about you? Have you gotten married in a state where it is legal? How do you think things have changed since 2004? Where do we still need to go? Share your thoughts below.

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Even as adults, it can be hard sometimes to tell if the person you are crushed out on is also a lesbian and if she's interested in you as well. For teenage lesbians, the issue is compounded by the fact that sometimes teens are still figuring out for themselves if they like girls, boys or both. That can make the world of dating especially tricky. So, what is a teen lesbian to do if she's out and proud, but doesn't know if her crush is a lesbian or not? And what about the friendly behavior? Is that a sign that she's interested, or is she just being friendly?
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When should someone with HIV disclose her status to the new person she is dating? Should it come before the first date? Before the first kiss? Before the first sex?

A lesbian with HIV has had some negative experiences after revealing her HIV status to women she was dating and she wanted to know if she was doing the right thing. What would you do if the woman you started dating told you she had HIV?

More:

• Can lesbians give each other HIV?
• Lesbian Safe Sex
• Is tribadism safe?

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When it comes to planning a lesbian wedding, who gets to decide what happens? Is one of you more of a "bride" than the other? Does one of you take on the "groom" role? That's exactly the question I was asked by Amy in Iowa. She thinks that because she is more girly and will be wearing the gown, she should have the final say in the wedding planning. Her wife-to-be, however, also wants to a "bride." I've given my two cents. What do you think?

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