Do Lesbians Care if You're Fat or Overweight?

Sarah says:

I've heard it said very often that lesbians/bisexuals are less shallow than men as far as 'curves' go in their women- but in all honesty, I've found the opposite to be true! So many of them seem fixated on this skinny, andro, 'Shane' look, and I can feel at times that if I go into some of the lesbian bars where I live I'm somehow not welcome simply because I don't try to appropriate that look (and couldn't possibly anyway!)...

Salty replies:

Unfortunately, we get too much of our influences from television. The same way television promotes heterosexuality it also promotes small body sizes. Young people watch music videos where most of the female singers and dancers are interchangeable. They are all pretty much the same size, same hair, same sound. And on tv shows, it's not much different. If there is a female who is not a size zero-6 (or whatever number is considered slim), then they are just in the background and don't have a life...

Little adds:

I don't look fat but medically I'm obese because I weigh 190 and I'm only 5'2 (but all the fat is in my boobs and my but...I got lucky). My girlfriend weights 220 but she's really athletic. She can run laps around the skinny muscular girls. We both have tried multiple times exercising and eating healthy but we can't seem to lose weight. She's a lot more confident with her body than I am. It took me till I was 18 to realize that I might be pretty instead of just cute...

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