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Kathy Belge

Sexy Fridays: Dealing with Sexual Differences

By June 3, 2011

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Often when we get together with a partner, we celebrate our differences. Like how she loves to work on the car, but you prefer to work in the garden. One of you might enjoy romantic comedies and the other likes documentary films. These kinds of differences usually don't cause too much friction in a relationship. But differences in the bedroom often do. Often it's because we haven't learned how to talk about these differences in a constructive way. So how, do you deal with differences in the bedroom?

One of the most common issues for couples, both gay and straight is dealing with different sex drives. One person wants to have sex more often than the other and sex often becomes a source of conflict rather than a uniting component. So, what do you do when you have different sex drives?

Another area of sexual conflict has to do with when one person has different sexual desires than her partner. For example, one reader wrote in to say, "I'm 100% tribadist and she likes penetration. She's got some fantasies about dildos but I can't even imagine myself using them." How can this couple deal with different sexual likes and dislikes?

Sometimes it's not only what we do (or don't do) with our partners that causes conflict, but what we do with ourselves. For example, is it okay for someone to masturbate when she is in a relationship?

Boredom in the bedroom can strike at any age. How you deal with that boredom can make or break a relationship.

Tamer TATLICI

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