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How to Find Your G-Spot

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The G-Spot is a sexually sensitive area on the front wall of the vagina. It was first written about in the 1950s by sex researcher Ernest Grafenberg and that's where the name G-spot comes from. The G-Spot is the tissue that surrounds a woman's urethra. All women have a G-spot, but the size, location and sensitivity may vary from woman to woman.
Time Required: A few minutes if you find it right away, but it may take several tries

Here's How:

  1. As a woman is aroused, her G-spot tends to swell and be easier to locate. So your first step is to spend some time with your partner, turning her on and getting her excited.
  2. The G-spot is located about one to two inches inside the vagina wall. Because of where it is located, the use of fingers is an excellent way to locate yours or your partner's G-spot.
  3. With your finger or fingers (lubricated is best) inside your partner's vagina, feel along the top wall of her vagina about two inches inside her vaginal opening. With your hand facing upward, make a "come here" motion with your fingers.
  4. The G-Spot varies in size for different women. It can be about the size of a dime to a half-dollar. When a woman is aroused, her G-spot becomes swollen and it will feel more spongy or differently textured than the smooth vaginal tissue around it. You will know you have found your G-spot when you locate this spongy area.
  5. For most women, a light touch doesn't do much to stimulate their G-spot. Experiment with direct and consistent pressure. Try different amounts of pressure, moving your finger(s) in a "come hither" motion. You may also try circular movements or thrusting. Ask her to tell you what feels best to her.
  6. Some women feel the urge to pee when their G-spot is stimulated. This is normal, as the G-spot is right near the bladder. Some women like this sensation, others do not. If this concerns you, be sure to empty your bladder before G-spot play.

    If you let go of the worry that you're going to pee and keep up the stimulation, you may have a G-spot orgasm and/or ejaculate.

  7. Some women are able to female ejaculate with G-spot stimulation. You might want to experiment with different pressure and motion to see if you or your partner can ejaculate.
  8. There are many sex toys on the market to help a woman locate her G-spot. These toys are usually curved and firmer than traditional dildos or vibrators.
  9. Some women like clitoral stimulation along with G-spot stimulation. The nerve endings are closely connected and the combination of internal and external stimulation is just the trick to send her over the moon.
  10. Experiment with different positions of penetration to see which works best for you and your partner to reach her G-spot. For some women "doggie style" is a good position because your partner can easily access your G-spot with her fingers or a sex toy. You can also try on your back with your legs in the air or with your back supported by a pillow.

Tips:

  1. Remember, the goal of sex is to connect with your partner and have a good time. Finding your G-spot shouldn't be hard, but you may or may not have an orgasm from G-spot stimulation.
  2. Communicate with your partner. Especially when you are trying something new, it's important to talk to each other. Tell her what feels good, ask if you're not sure you're in the right spot with the right amount of pressure.
  3. Remember the G-spot is only a few inches inside her vaginal opening, so deep penetration, while it may feel good, is not going to stimulate her G-spot.
  4. Not all women like G-spot stimulation. If you try and nothing really happens for you, that's okay. Move on to something you know you do like.
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