How did you come out to your parents?
I was 19 just about 20, and I told them face to face!!
What did you say?
Well, I came home after a night out with one of my "friends" we just went out for coffee actually, and while we were out we chatted about how I hated all this lying and story telling I had to do to keep this secret from my parents and I decided that it would just be easier to tell them. So when I left my "friend" I told my self that tonight is the night I am going to tell my parents about her, and that she is more than a friend. So I was walking home, it was about a 5 minute walk home, and I chickened out and decided that there is no way I am telling them, then I notice this car following me, and it was the "friend" so I walked over to her car. She just wanted to make sure I was going to get home alright, so I naturally said yes, and then went in for the first good night kiss, it was so amazing, everything I had wanted it to be. So again, I decided I was going to tell them, except this time I meant it, as soon as her car was out of site, I ran down my street, and went in the door, My parents noticing me out of breath were like are you ok, where were you? So I said straight up, I was on a date, and they naturally asked me with who, so I told them I was with a girl and told them her name, and what an amazing person she is. Everything went amazingly well, my mom asked me how long I had known, I told her about 3 years, but it really didn't hit me till I went away for a year, and then she started asking me if I was happy, so I said yes (obviously). My dad pretty much said cool! like he expected me to come home and say that (haha).
As far as I am concerned that was a great reaction, my mom said, that she had thought about it before, and that there were subtle hints left along the way, but she said she never really put a lot of thought into it. I think my Dad is having a harder time with it then my mom but that's cool.
Advice
- I don't think I would do anything differently, I told my parents when I knew I was ready, and when I had strong feelings for someone, who I knew would be there to support me if things did go bad.
- Don't let anyone pressure you into coming out, its a big thing to do, and it boosts your confidence up by miles, especially if you get a great response from your parents.
- Know your parents opinion on gays, it will make coming out so much easier for you, and them, if they are fine with you and other people being gay, then you should have no problem coming out.
- ***GOOD LUCK!****
