How did you come out to your parents?
Ugh, I'm such a chicken when it comes to confrontations. I was 15 at the time, and I'd been going through a depressive cycle caused by the fact I told my best friend I loved her, and she replied by saying she would never feel the same way about me, but we can still be friends right? Anyways, my parents were insanely worried about me, and I wanted to tell them, but I lack this little thing called COURAGE. So pretty much, I wrote a four sentence note, folded it, walked to the main floor, stuck the paper under a cup, told my parents that this was my explanation, and scurried downstairs to hide with my big sister.
What did you say?
What I had written on the little piece of paper was (in bold letters mind you):
I'm Bisexual.
I told my best friend I love her.
She said she could never feel the same.
That's why I'm depressed.
I didn't ask them anything, whether they'd accept me or not (honestly at the time all I wanted to do was get the theory my dad had going on that I was pregnant out of their heads, and the truth seemed to be the best way to do so) I just knew that I had to tell them what was going on, and if telling them about my sexuality was how it had to go, then I had to do it.
They reacted... better than anticipated. My daddy called me upstairs, and when I finally got the courage to join them, my Daddy gave me a hug, told me both my mom and him love me very much, and nothing would ever change that, and that they'd support me the whole way. My mom then turned to me and told me she thought I should look for help (at the time I thought she meant help because I shouldn't be anything but straight, but in the end it turned out to be help because this was the first emotionally traumatic event I'd ever suffered through). My mom gave me a hug too, and so far they've been very supportive, though the subject is still something touch-and-go.
Advice
- They won't talk freely about it anymore, and when the household jokes start flying they hesitate on anything that could insult me, unless I make the joke first. Generally if I bring up the topic they'll talk a little on it, but they won't really add their own opinion. I don't care that much about it though; my sexuality has always been just that, and I never tend to concern my parents with it. All I need to know is that my parents are here for me, and they love me :3
- And I love them very much. For everything.
- suggestions to others who want to come out: Do it how you want to. And hold your breath.
